If you’ve yet to hear the name Chelan Russ, then you soon will. Chelan is actively involved in SCT Now. She is also an incredible singer and songwriter. I call her my music twin because we share the same taste in music! Anyway, Chelan shared this with me the other day and I asked her if we could share this on my blog. It REALLY challenged me to look at the areas I struggle with, and my inability to ask for help. I hope you are inspired by this today in some way just as I was.
A friend of mine came over to my house Monday morning – on her day off – & spent over 2 hours with me writing out chore lists for the kids & for me: cleaning supply lists, organizational ideas, & weekly & monthly goals. After we’d established what was reachable and not overwhelming, she was on her way with a smile, “I’ll be back next Monday. At that point, we’ll talk about how the week went & what we’ll tackle next.”
Rewind. Sunday, I was overwhelmed. I knew change was a-comin’ but didn’t know where to begin. So I called a friend to ask for help. Organization, cleanliness & discipline are not what you would call part of my “skill set”. I needed accountability & I was desperate for it. To be more honest than I like to be, I slack. If I’m not fully intentional about kicking bad habits, it won’t happen. I build up mental crud when it comes to cleaning, that need a good Roto-rootering every 6 months (or less depending how much effort it’s gonna take).
I was left with my chin in my hand & a smile on my face, standing in my kitchen as I read these lists. i was filled with thankfulness that God put her on my mind to call…& that she responded so quickly. She was unaccusing, selfless & thorough.
Really, who does that?
After a trip to Costco and Rite Aid, I stocked up on TP, paper towels, cleaners, disinfectant wipes, sponges & brushes. It’s so frustrating when you know you have a responsibility but lack funds or lack the organizational things needed to get it done. Thrilled that we actually had the money for these things this week, I was ready.
This morning, Angel wanted to watch a movie I’d checked out at the library, so I made her a deal, “as soon as you’re done cleaning the floor, I’ll put it on”. I helped her sweep, & then she grabbed the Lysol wipes I’d dropped sporadically on the floor & began scrubbing marks off the hard wood. A minute in, as she was on her hands & knees, she paused & looked up at me & in her lighthearted tone said, “I’m making daddy happy. I’m making God happy. AND daddy happy!”
She couldn’t be more right. Changing bad time-management habits into good ones at home – means sacrifice. There’s no way around that. I’m gonna have to put lunch dates, frequent Facebook updates & my work out on hold. But when you make a choice to change something with a right attitude & right motivation, the job becomes less of a job and really more of a demonstration of love. Out of that, you get a sense of accomplishment & somehow even joy.
As a wife who hates housework, this is quite the mystery to me. But God has this way of revealing shades of it to me gently. As I humble myself and simply do what I know He’s called me to do, I’m filled with that joy & my home is filled with peace…a peace that smells lemony-fresh! My 4 -year old had it… in the honoring of her daddy at home, we were honoring our Father in heaven. And the Bonus Feature?He will honor us all in return.